The inherent worth of virtual touch is in its innate ability to activate the proprioceptive system in the clients Rubenfeld Synergy Trainingbody as well as in the somatic therapists body. This is an internal nervous system that literally allows a person to know where they are in the world. It allows one body part to know where another body part is. When this system is injured through trauma and neglect, it becomes difficult to feel oriented in the world. People don’t know where their body is and where they are. Consequently they don’t know who they are. They become off balance and have a tendency to trip, fall, bump into things and others.

The value of virtual touch as well as well as physical transformative touch in general is that it has a positive orienting effect for people. There is a right brain-to -right brain limbic resonance that helps clients to reconnect with a sense of self that is essential to healing.

  1. Clients report a calming, soothing, and softening experience in their bodies. This allows the body the opportunity to lengthen and widen. It also enables clients to breathe easier and more fully which leads to greater oxygen flow in their body.
  2. This oxygenation leads clients to a more expansive knowledge of their life experiences. In traditional therapy the focus a is on going deeper. In virtual touch the focus is on the expanse. The client has a chance to know the length, breadth, breath, and depth of an experience. Our physical transformative touch and the virtual version have the same benefit of connecting body with mind, spirit, soul, and emotion. It touches, sees, and listens to the body as a whole.
  3. When the body, mind, spirit, soul, and emotion connect client come to a clear understanding of their life’s journey. This understanding, standing under their life’s experiences, injuries and trauma provides a solid base for them to stand tall in their lives again. They move from having to withstand lives tragedies, which creates rounded shoulders, collapsed chests and shortened spines, to understanding them, standing under them with a new ability to move. They are able to rotate their heads and reach out again with their arms. As we like to say in somatic therapy, they become re-armed rather than dis-armed. They become re-bodied rather than dis-embodied.

 Instructions for Virtual Touch Experience

  1. You first need to establish safety in order to send and receive touch. Remember touch is reciprocal. When you are touching, you are being touched. So you need to ask permission each time you go to touch. You need to tell the client if you are a therapist, or friend, if you are member of general public, where you are going to touch and then ask if is ok with them if you touch them there. This establishes safety and trust.
  2. Know that touch is a fully embodied experience. When you are virtual touching a client or friend you are touching them with your words, your tone, your presence, your energy, your experience. You are not just touching with your hand. We know that when you touch in this way that the touch can travel great distances.
  3. Tell the person you are touching where, how and why you are touching this place on the body. For example: I am going to place my hands on your right shoulder. My right hand will gently be on the front of the shoulder and my left hand will gently be on the back of your shoulder. Breathe easy and let me know when you feel my hands there. I am touching this area because you told me this shoulder needed support. I am sending support to this shoulder.
  4. Inquire “ In what way would this shoulder want to be touched by the world today?

Ask them to use somatic or (proprioceptive) language. For example, words like gentle, warm, cold, tingly, tight, supported  etc. Using proprioceptive/somatic language stimulates the touch receptors in the body of the person being touched as well as in the body of the toucher.

  1. Offer that quality to the shoulder. Invite them to stay with that experience.
  2. Invite that sensation/quality to move down the arm & hand as you sense your hands making that movement also.
  3. Check in with their experience and any possible shifts in the shoulder.


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